Jazmine Navarro
3. Does the selection you chose challenge the definition/beliefs you have about romantic love? How so? Does it correspond to your definition/beliefs? How so?
In Raymond Carver’s, “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love”, Terri has a very, well, different outlook on what love is. Her ex, Ed, showed his “love” by beating her up and at once instance almost killing her. She stands by her belief that even though he did these things to her he still loved her. Through out the story the reader find out that Ed killed himself which brings Terri to concluded that, “It was love….Sure it’s abnormal in most people’s eyes. But he was willing to die for it. He did die for it.”
Terri and I have very different views on what love is. I do not believe that love has to hurt. I do not think that is love at all – it is just dominance or a reach for dominance. If a man or women has to beat there significant other up or almost kill them to show how much he or she cares about him or her then that relationship is just unhealthy. There is nothing okay about domestic abuse and I do not think that any type of abuse equals love. Love is something that makes one happy – not scared for their life. Someone should not have to live in fear because of someone who claims to love him or her shows it in an unsettling and hurtful way. Love is something that fills one up with joy and it should always be that way – it should never elicit fear.
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